It is Just a Step From Where You Are

To where you want to be. This is the philosophy behind the ‘Longing to Living’ concept.

Not sure what that means? It’s quite simple. Most of us, including myself once upon a time, spend most of our lives longing for something, whether that’s a different lifestyle, less stress, our ideal partner or whatever else you may happen to long for.

It has become more acceptable to people these days, the notion of focusing more on what you want in order to bring about more of what you want. Makes sense really doesn’t it? However this is not all it seems because the state of longing for something usually means that we are indeed wanting it, but with a belief that we can’t have it. There is a huge difference between longing to live the life of your dreams and living it, but the gap between the two is actually very small, meaning that living your dream is within your grasp.

Now rather than bombard you with new age nonsense the so-called secret to achieving this is not a secret at all. What gets you living instead of longing is a decision.

I discovered that all I had to do to live my dream life and to continue building on that dream was making decisions. Sorry if that sounds obvious, but the decision to just start living my preferred lifestyle is what transformed my life.

I write several blogs, write and produce music and I write books, all of which are designed to lift your spirits and empower you to have the confidence in making the decisions that will change your life.

I recommend you read the following blogs:

• The Neural Recon Report – Developing a ‘Can Do’ Mindset
• Boy at Heart – My Musical Expression of Life.

Currently available as part of the Longing to Living Concept is my book Mind Over Matter Heart Over Mind. You can get a downloadable copy of the interactive songbook, which includes the 5 songs from ‘MOMHOM’. It explains how you can shift your way of thinking, so you can start creating the things you want in your life, just as I have done and continue to do.

You can get your downloadable Songbook even quicker if you just fill in the form at the top-right of this page and you’ll also receive the MOMHOM Free Program, which will be explained to you once you sign up for your free songbook.

It’s all good and it’s all for you!

Which direction are you moving in?

When I first set out to change my lifestyle, my dream was to leave the office. The irony was at the time that I was not working and so after setting an intention I jumped straight into the very thing I wanted to leave behind: An office job!

Of course that may sound a bit crazy and totally in the opposite direction of what where I wanted to go, but it was in perfect alignment to my vision and this is the point I want to highlight because it is important, it will help you understand any situation you may find yourself in that seems like a setback or a distraction from the life of your dreams.

The life of your dreams is now. It is not in the future. If you hold it in the future it will remain there, forever untouchable and unattainable and you will spend your whole life longing instead of living. This installment of my story explains the reason why I did what I did and why it was necessary and how, by holding the feeling of living the life of my dreams – NOW, I kept it all together to get to where I wanted to be.

Boy@Heart is Where it’s at!

If you have been here before and enjoyed the articles here, you may have gathered by now that I am a recording artist and a musician. In fact I have developed over the last couple of years to point where I can call myself a singer/songwriter.

Recently I decided that I wanted to focus more energy in this area, which of course means having to organize my other project, like Leave the Office. However, seeing as LTO is still very relevant to the manifesto I have with my music, it is a project that I will continue with although if you are interested in my work over at www.boyatheart.com you will probably find more going on over there because I am putting a great deal of effort in developing my video-production skills and making the whole experience more of a multi-media one.

After a short while deliberating whether of not to apply the video approach to all my websites I decided not to. I am still evolving in terms of video and I figure the best way to develop that is to focus on a particular style. Seeing as I am more naturally adept at music, that is where I am going to focus my video content.

Leave the Office was my first website and it remains one of my proudest moments. I think it is a great name. I’ll be putting something special into the Leave the Office story as soon as I am inspired with something it deserves. Until then I’ll keep waffling here and there about personal growth, the journey of life and how it really is everyone’s best interests to pursue a life where we are doing what we love and being who we came here to be.

If you want to find out a whole lot more about the guy behind Leave the Office then I welcome you to connect with me at the Boy@Heart website. It’s going great over there and moving along nicely. If you like great music that fires you up then it’s definitely the place to be, especially with my running project Musical Pick-Me-Ups

So get on over there, watch the current video Don’t be Afraid of Your Shadow and fill in the form if you want to be a VIP subscriber.

The Many Loops of Life

Life is circular. There are a number of things most of us are aware about to support this view of things, like Karma and nature to name just the obvious ones.

Look at nature. We see the life-cycle of many things around us, yet often don’t realize that we are part of this cycle, living a cycle of our own. We dwell too much on the beginning and end of things, which often boils down to our fear or disappointment of having "all this end" some time, or even "When will this end?".

It doesn’t end folks, it doesn’t begin, it just goes round and round. I would like to talk about an aspect of the loop we exist in and how it is there for us to liberate or imprison ourselves in our lives. It’s our choice.

A common obstacle to doing something you want to do is the fear of what others will think. For some reason it is difficult for many people to admit to their friends that they want to inspire people or do something that will impact the world around them. This is tragic. We are all actually here to do that because there is one simple word that joins all the dots of life and clears the fog of "What’s it all for?".

Purpose

Purpose is the very thing that separates a mundane life from a fulfilling one and something which is constantly evolving. It is very rare that we all have one purpose that lasts a lifetime. Purpose comes and goes, but is the very foundation on which our happiness can be built on in any given moment.

So, with regard to wanting to contribute to others. There is a potential fear of standing out, that maybe one or more of our own flaws may be exposed in doing so and the all-too-often remark made by people that "He’s not interested in helping others, just making a buck" or "She only helps others to feel good about herself".

I’ve got a response to comments like that. "Shut up and find a purpose!". Yes I used to have those kinds of thoughts about people who were successful and contributed their time and or money to helping others. I would sometimes cynically mention that they were just exercising some good PR to grow their self image and therefore bank balance, but I think on the whole that is incorrect.

The result is what’s important. Also this:
If you want to help people because it makes you feel good then that is actually a good enough reason to do so. The holy grail of life in my opinion is to be happy. Is that fair to say? Nothing else is of much use if we don’t feel happy enough to appreciate, value and enjoy it.

So by helping people in your own way and making yourself feel good, you are flowing with the loop, you are dancing in time with the music of life and therefore fulfilling a purpose. Do you know one of the end results of fulfilling a useful purpose to the world around you? It is being taken care of, which at the point our world has evolved is usually in the form of being able to pay our bills and sustain ourselves financially.

This is the main reason I left the office in the first place. Yes I wanted to seek my fortune, become financially independent and live the life of my dreams, but if you have a dream for your life, it had better have some clarity about the purpose you have living it, or it won’t actually be much of a life, let alone sustainable.

This is not about being a "Do gooder", but it is about doing right by yourself, which means being true to who you are, which you can only be if you know "who" you are. My idea of purpose is changing all the time as I get to know myself more and since I left the office my dream and my intentions have changed, or rather they have evolved. I still want to do many of the things I set out to do. Some of them I have achieved, but I am aware that they will only ever be achieved with purpose behind them.

So what of this loop? Well let’s say you have a purpose to inspire people (I feel this is a purpose of mine. It is certainly an intention). You wish to inspire somebody by being yourself, maybe you write a book, write a song or simply help others see how they can improve their own life. You succeed in doing so and this makes you feel good. In fact it does more than that, it feeds you with energy, which makes you feel alive and incredible. This in turn inspires you to create an even more powerful expression with which you can inspire others and the result is that you inspire more people and so it goes.

If you help others in order to feel better yourself then you are actually building on your ability and effectiveness to help others even more, so anyone that says it is wrong to help others out of a desire to help yourself is wrong. They are simply assuming that your desire is to make money from appearing to help others. You can’t do that, at least not for long. People see through that S***T, even if it seems to go on for a long time.

I always go back to someone like Bill Gates because he always seems to be on the receiving end of criticism. No surprise, look at how many know who he is. Microsoft transformed the world and made it a much easier place to do business, make money, turn new ideas into reality and communicate with loved ones around the world, relatively cheaply. It has transformed the world. The result is that Microsoft made loads of money. Now I am the first to curse Windows for hogging too much memory and crashing at inopportune moments, but the point is that whether Bill Gates started Microsoft to become rich or because he wanted to do something good is irrelevant. Look at the result and I’m not even talking about his philanthropic work.

Making money helping people is perfectly OK as long as you are actually helping people. If you receive feedback that suggests what people are paying you for is not helping them then it is time to refine your purpose or how you implement your purpose.

What all of this boils down to is that leaving the office is not an answer to life’s problems. If you simply want to stop putting money in your bosses pocket and live life on you own terms, that is great, but make sure you know why you want to do that because it needs to serve a purpose, not only to work for you, but to make life fun.

Mmmm Experts?

I Read an interesting article on the BBC website recently, except the only thing useful I got out of it was the inspiration to write this article. I’m always amazed at the "We have the deifinitve answer" statements made by some scientific researchers. It’s very closed-minded and not the most useful approach to researching matters of psychology, but there you go.

So back to this article – linked here for you to agree or disagree with. It appears that research has concluded that ‘self help’ can actually be bad for you because people with low self esteem feel worse after making positive affirmations to themselves.

Hey sorry folks with low self esteem.
It seems the experts have spoken.
You can’t be happy and your life won’t get better!

That is the problem with fixed viewpoints. They contain too many assumptions, which are narrow-minded and hold back our progress. The assumption in this case is that people with low self esteem are beyond helping themselves.

Think about it. First of all, those who try any self development technique with the attitude that they are broken and need fixing are not going to get results very quickly and in fact may feel worse in the beginning, but that’s got nothing to do with the ‘self help’ techniques: As described here. That has everything to do with their attitude. Any process of change, growth or improvement has to get messy and painful before it gets better.

Just think at how everyone of us came into this world. It wasn’t pretty! (but it is beautiful of course).

The fact is that it takes more than trying to affirm positive statements to yourself for a few days to change your life. In fact it takes longer than most people have the stamina for because you have to maintain the discipline to change your view of life and your view of yourself. You have to force yourself to think about things in a more desirable way before those thoughts become habits and that can take a while, by which time most people have given up. Some might even be heard saying "Well that didn’t work it just made me feel worse", so the way I see that article, all it did was conclude that we are stuck with our situation and if our situation is a poor one, then bad news, there’s no point trying to do anything about it.

I do have an issue with much of the media though. I don’t read the newspapers or watch the news. It’s mostly full of what certain groups of people want you to see and is rarely the whole truth, but I’m glad I saw this article because these days I am very clear about wanting to inspire people to find improvement in their life and I try and expose to people as much information as I can that will allow them the awareness that they have a choice.

In a nutshell, I don’t listen to any so-called experts. Not for long anyway. The best teachers in my mind are the ones who openly admit they are still learning and who are not above learning from their students either because teaching is a 2-way street, not dictation. Sounds like inspiration for another article!

The icing on the cake of that BBC article for me was this statement:

"A UK psychologist said people based their feelings about themselves on real evidence from their lives".

Did you get a degree to come up with that? Of course they do, it’s how most of us are conditioned since birth, which means that people have been creating a habit of whatever their attitude is for years. Try changing the root cause of the way you feel and then see what happens in the future.

I’d like to make a suggestion to the psychologists. Take a step out of your own boundaries and text books and conduct some research starting now with people who apply techniques to change the way they think and feel about themselves, whether they have low self esteem or not, then after several years, publish the results. You might learn something.

SELF HELP is just that. There is nothing in this universe that can "Self Help" you. In case anyone’s forgotten, "yourself" is you… or rather the character you have built over years in your own story of life.

There is always the option to change the story and actually some sequels are even better than the first story too!

Can it really be that simple?

We as humans do seem to have a love for over-complicating things. If there is a simple solution then we will often not trust that it can possibly be right, so we go in search of something more complex and time consuming. Maybe it’s something to do with our fears and so is just another way to continue putting things back and taking more time, so we can still have the looming restriction of time to blame for many of our problems and lack of progress.

I can be quite a procrastinator and a very clever one too. It used to take me months or years to notice that I was putting something off or getting distracted, it really was that chronic. My intricate schemes to procrastinate without me noticing are still there and are in fact getting more sophisticated, but I notice it more every day and even if I don’t succeed in overcoming it I at least accept it and don’t beat myself, anyone or anything else up about it.

More recently though I have come to the conclusion that I have all the information I need to create the most incredibly successful life. Even better than the one I have desired for years. I am at a very interesting point right now too and frankly, it is a bit scary. Hopefully what I write in this article will help anyone else who is in a similar position or who is worrying about their current life situation in any way. I believe that at times when I feel a bit helpless or powerless that the real truth could be that I am in the perfect position to exercise great power by leaving my worries alone and helping others to dispel their own, so here goes.

Not that it has anything to do with this article, but whenever I ask the question "What is it that you want to do" I think of the song "Loaded" by Primal Scream, which begins with those words. In fact it has a lot to do with this article come to think of it because I just realized that thinking of that song, which is nearly 20 years old now (Wow is it that long already?) I am taken back to certain feelings of what my life was like back then. I have some really great memories of the years that I was listening to that song and others of the time – the early Nineties. Funnily enough in the UK at the time we were experiencing a recession then too and music was a big healer for me and, it seemed everybody due to the fact that some of the best music I had heard for years was coming out around that time from the end of the 80′s.

Well what is so powerful about music, like "Loaded" is that over time my mind had made an association with that song and a particular feeling and music has this power. Other senses do too like smell and images obviously, but being a musical sort and very sensitive to things of a sonic nature, music is involved in some very strong associations made by my mind to how I was feeling at the time and in some cases, reminds me of people from the time too.

So as I asked the question "What is it that you want to do?", which always gets me focused I hit upon the significance of this realization and found the missing piece to a puzzle I have been trying to solve for a while now. How can I channel my musical passions and talents in a direction that will keep me interested, inspired and constantly creative, whilst inspiring other people and keeping them interested. I have felt for a quite a while that simply trying to sell CDs or MP3s, trying to get on internet radio, getting the most hits on Myspace and all the other social networks, "Going viral" and being picked up on the front pages of various traffic-heavy web pages, just like everyone else didn’t really inspire me very much. I wanted to know how I could actually make a difference, not just by trying to entertain people with my music, but actually having it serve a useful purpose and be entertaining in its own right too.

With the marriage of LTO and BAH I think I have found the answer and if not I am pretty close to it. This is what is currently behind my work and it has given me such a boost in my levels of love for what I am doing that I am even starting to surprise myself with the insight and the ideas I am now putting down on paper. The premise of what I am doing on my current project is based on the approach to living life by design, encompassing the power of associations made by the mind between music, feelings and emotions.

So I am excited. Not only am I pleased with what I am writing musically, but I am also pleased with what I am writing literally and I cannot wait to see what other people think of it and what I love about it is that I am not making "Meditation music" or "New-Age music". I am making accessible music: Rock, Pop, Country, folk and contemporary music. This means that it will stand by itself simply as good music; Well not for everyone, but that goes for anything anyway doesn’t it?

So just ask yourself the question every day. "What is it that you want to do?" and be prepared for a revelation!

What is it that you want to do? Share it here and give it some power, even if you don’t know how you will achieve it yet.

I would love to hear your feedback too.

Do Only What You Love.

Is This Just Possible? I’m going to be really imaginative now and write an article about the current economic crisis! Wow, what can be said that hasn’t been said already? Well actually I don’t know if what I’ve got to say has been said already or not. Probably most of it has, but I still want to get something across that I thought about today, which is something I think is crucial to consider for our future from this moment onwards.

I am feeling particularly good. My wife is pregnant, it is our first child and we discovered today at the hospital checkup that there is already a tiny little heart beating, which just blew my mind. I’ve not really given child development any conscious thought before, but that really does impress me that after just 11 weeks, there is a heart already pumping away, full of life and gusto, just itching to experience the life it chose to come here for…

And that was what got me thinking and excited for the rest of the day. You see, as I continue on my journey ever creating the life of my dreams, facing personal obstacles, overcoming them, becoming conscious of limiting beliefs I never knew I had and breaking them down, my wife is always very supportive and often says to me that I have her power to rely on whenever I need any. That’s a lovely sentiment I think and I can’t think of a better way to express support for somebody.

Well since we have another little being in our household, my wife often reminds me that our little baby is here to share her power with us to help us fulfil all of our dreams. Again a lovely sentiment, another reason I love being married to somebody from a totally different culture and perspective to my own.

So eventually I start to get to the point of this article. Thank you for staying with me on this one…

The Point of This Article!

Let us say that when a baby is developing it knows what it is here for and when it is born into the physical world that knowledge fades and the rest of its life as a human being is for it to rediscover its personal expression of life, its own particular strength, uniqueness and contribution. Its value. It’s what we’re all here for, to deliver the value of whatever natural, unique expression we were gifted with.

But what happens often, not always, but often is that we find ourselves steered onto a path that is not best suited to what we are naturally gifted with. More often than not we are conditioned into following a path that is considered to be the most safe, sensible and secure, which is nothing more than a perpetuation of the last generation’s experience, determined by the generation before that. What shapes our future much of the time is our past or more importantly the past of our parents, school teachers and other influences on us as we grew up. Of course this is all done with the best of intentions behind it, but it was all based on an illusion.

Think about this:

"You must focus on following this proven model of life, which includes a job you don’t like, a belief in a reality that is only a reality because of the amount of perpetual belief in it in the past, a reality that states ‘Life is hard, dreams don’t come true, so you have to settle for the best you can get’ which if all turns out well, you will reap the benefits of life in the form of a retirement and a pension that will cover your costs and pay your bills, maybe allow you a few nice vacations and maybe, at last, a new car before you die".

Now if it was worded like that then do you think it would be a convincing argument to go that route?

The fact is – and it was always fact before the current downturn in the world economy that having a salaried job is not guaranteed as being more secure than creating your own income. As soon as you are made redundant your income stops and you have to start all over again. At least if your business suffers setbacks, you can rethink your approach or even diversify and see an improvement far quicker than having a single source of income cut off and you having to find a new one, at least as good to replace it. Pensions are a gamble nowadays. You pay an organization your money for your whole working life, so they can play with it and enjoy it. If it is worth anything when you retire, you will be able to live off that money. If it’s not worth anything then sorry and good luck! There is no predictability in any economy, therefore there is no more risk living life one way than there is any other, at least financially speaking, which seems to have become the benchmark of whether something is worthwhile or not.

Be Grateful For This Economic Meltdown

All of these facts are becoming more easy to see now for more people. The collapse in the economy in that respect is a very good thing. It is an opportunity for awakening. It could just be possible that we as parents will, because of the realization that all paths in life have unpredictable elements that we do not so easily fall into the trap of discouraging our children from pursuing the things they love to do because "There’s no money or security in it". Instead it will be far more natural to embrace our children’s uniqueness and talents and help them grow it in such a way that they grow the belief in themselves to know that is their path in life and create their own careers based on what they do best, without having to fight between what is in their heart and what is in their head.

Let’s be attentive to our children, encourage them and plant the seeds of belief in their head, so there is no conflict. In fact if we allow that then I believe we will become more aware of what it is that we love to do in our hearts and will gain the courage to follow it with a new belief in what is possible for our own lives. The other bonus is that your kids will not even think to blame you for their own "Messed up lives" because they will be far more certain and empowered creating the lives they chose and not the life you unwittingly chose for them.

I’ve said it before You Are Success. It doesn’t depend on the economy or outside forces, even when you were young taking on the beliefs of your parents, it wasn’t them planting the seeds in your head, it was you making a decision about what they meant after you interpreted it a certain way..

So to conclude I believe this current recession, depression or whatever else people are sensationally calling it, is most likely the exact thing this world needs because if there has been a recession in anything in the past it has been in awareness. It’s time to wake up. Our life purpose is to write our own life story, not to take out pensions, so we can afford to pay our health care bills for the final chapter in a story that we just found ourselves playing a bit-part in.

I don’t want to wait until the final act to start playing my part. Do you?

Information Overload

Recently I posted a song over at The Weekly Songcast called Overloaded. over the last week I have begun to see a parallel with that song and the amount of information I have been receiving in my email inbox recommending products that will change my life, make me more money and clear away all my problems.

Well I have nothing against this, but it has reminded me of something that I went through a while back when I first started to purposefully and consciously take steps towards the life I wanted and what I went through was information overload. I tried to soak up so much information and didn’t want to miss out on what could be the best program, course or book that I bought so many I couldn’t really apply enough of my attention on all of them. I’ll be honest and say that there are still a number of books I paid for that I have not yet read after a year or two.

Lessons Learned

I learned a great lesson from this and I want to pass on what I learned with the intention of helping anyone else who has the desire to improve their life situation. It could save you some time and money!

First of all I want to explain my position. I myself recommend different products of a "self improvement" nature, so I am not complaining about those who are sending me emails recommending such things, as I do. However it highlights something to me that I feel is important because there is only so much information that one can assimilate effectively.

Have you purchased a self improvement program, Law of attraction course or Ebook in the last month? If you have, my recommendation to you is to focus on that until you have integrated the lessons contained in it. After all you are aware this is an investment in your life aren’t you, seeing as you paid money for it. Make sure you get your money’s worth!

There are other programs that may have a different slant on the same thing that may even do a better job of helping you integrate their teachings, depending on your preferred teaching and presentation style, but look; These things cost a lot of money and if you want to get your money’s worth then stick with one at a time. If you buy a course, program or membership with a teacher or facilitator then ignore any follow up emails from them about somebody else’s program that they also recommend. Don’t get distracted or lured into the doubting voice that says that maybe the program you have just bought is not quite enough by itself. It will be if you stay focused and apply what you learn.

There are currently about half a dozen programs that I am really interested in getting, mostly for research purposes so I can write honest reviews of them from experience, but even from a research point of view there needs to be focus and I am studying already. I also have a policy of only spending money on such things that I receive from my writing, so I need to make more of that before I invest any more!

Maintaining Focus is Key

Its common sense really. If you have a load of books all waiting to be read then your focus on one will not be as strong all the while you are itching to get to the next one. Why would you be so eager to move onto the next one? Well maybe because you paid good money for it and want to get on and start getting what you paid for. I am saying this from experience. I only ever benefited from any of these programs when I focused on one specific one for a period of time without the distraction of thinking about any other method or program, instead of trying to go through them all concurrently.

So that’s my view on it. Why would somebody (like I did) buy one product before finishing the last one? Well the main reason is that very clever marketing technique of scarcity. "Act now before the price goes back up", "Don’t miss this one time offer, only until midnight tonight", "There are only 1,000 copies of this course, so make sure you don’t miss out"

You know what. I have learned that if I am fully engaged with a program at the time of receiving one of those offers then it is just not the right time for me to take that offer, unless I am totally happy to spend my money and leave it sitting on my shelf for the next couple of months, by which time I may have missed the "Money back guarantee" period by the way!

What most of these self improvement programs , especially law of attraction based ones teach you is to work on becoming more connected to your intuition, something I think is essential and valid. I believe I have become much more connected with my intuition since starting this kind of study and direction in life. This has given me the confidence to trust that I am not going to miss out on that crucial piece of information that will change everything in my life if I don’t "BUY IT NOW" and if I never have a chance to study it then, hey that’s just not what I need.

Only When You Are Ready

It is said that you get what you need when you are ready for it and if you miss one opportunity, you will be presented again and again with another until you are ready enough to see it and act on it, which to my understanding means that if you are fully engaged and enjoying the process of " product A" right now then you do not need the distraction of "product B". This is the reason why programs fail for many people because they never get to fully complete the one they were doing when the next one showed up.

In short you have to trust yourself from the inside and be strong. You don’t need to buy lots of different programs. If you do your research before hand and find one which you feel is most in line with the way you like to study and learn then go with it. You may find it is the only program you will ever need.

I hope my lesson in information overload has helped you because I sincerely want you to start living your dream as soon as possible and I don’t want to see you stalled by doing program after program, waiting to be "Ready enough" to change your life. It slowed me down, so the positive learning I can take from that is to pass on the lesson and forewarn you.

Choose wisely and stay on top of the information available to you. You will grow much quicker because the truth is, what the many programs and products out there are doing is awakening you to resources, knowledge, strength, power, energy and ability you already have inside you just ready and waiting to be accessed. All of the programs I have used have essentially pointed to the same thing and the only thing that really made the difference for me was me, once I had got it deeper than just my mind. With the discipline to stick with one process and not get sidetracked I believe that you can accomplish whatever it is that you want when embarking on a self-development program because the only one who really knows how to change your life is you.

What’s your experience of information overload? I’d love to hear your comments and what you learned from the experience.

Photo: Phoebe

Are you a hard worker?

If so, in all honesty does it pay off? I ask this because the more I look around these days, especially as I adapt to a life where I am thinking about things in a totally different way to the way I used to, I see hard work as "wrong turn" in life. Somewhere a very grave error of judgement was made and now you find yourself being a hard worker and as irony would have it the world seems to be full of people who don’t work as hard as you do and seem to be much better off than you are. How did that happen?

Well before I continue with this article I want to draw your attention to an article I found the other day about hard work and where the beliefs of the virtues of hard work were initially instilled in people to the point of them being adopted automatically by about 90% or more of the world’s population.

The article is here and it is both fascinating and enlightening. The Puritan Work Ethic

Now, after reading the above referenced article (if you read it) are your views on hard work the same? In truth, any views you have on the subject are most probably so deeply engrained into your sub-conscious that you may not even realize you have any views on it. In fact your views on hard work may not appear to you like opinions, but simply hard fact, imposed on you by reality.

What is prevalent in most of our minds is the notion that hard work is something of a noble virtue, even though the truth of it is that nobody else really cares how hard you are working. Hard work is something to be done out of a feeling of guilt… of something. I don’t actually know what of to be honest, but as mentioned in the article on the Puritan work ethic I agree that hard work can be defines as something we don’t want to do.

Look at The Rolling Stones. They are granddads and they still spend countless hours touring, which is tiring in your 20′s let alone your 60′s. It cannot be denied that they are busy guys and much of the time probably physically tired as well, but do you think they look at what they do as work, let alone hard work? This is the point. They make more money nearly every hard worker on the planet combined and they spend their life playing and they are not the only ones of course.

The expectation of this view of the typical view of a hard workera hard worker is one that brings with it the assumption that said hard worker possesses all the virtues of a so-called good person. Is it possible that this hard-working guy could be a stressed out, wife-beating alcoholic, pushed to breaking point by the very fact that he has to work so hard doing a job he hates, hating most of his life in order to provide all that he does for his family?

Am I being too harsh here?

I know I have a biased viewpoint about this because I don’t believe you should do a job you don’t like, just so you can afford to hand over your money to someone else who has lent it to you over the period of your whole life. There is more of a reason to be here than simply to apply for a lifetime debt and then spend the rest of it paying it back. What of the lender. Is he slaving away for 40 hours a week? I’ll leave you to answer that one for yourself.

This is a very controversial topic because it flies in the face of one of the most deeply set and widely agreed-upon beliefs in existence. Beliefs that span religion, language and background. It is only a tiny percentage of the world that believe the opposite that are living the lives of their dreams. With the internet having evolved as it has, it is becoming more visible and real a possibility to people than it used to be. I can understand that the notion of following your dreams and doing what you love bringing about the life you both desire and deserve would be a joke in, say the 1950′s just after a world war, people were left with nothing and not much of a choice of what to do next. Of course I can see that, but the fact is that is was still the truth back then and it was possible despite it being very difficult to believe what with the physical evidence around. Its just that now we have so many more channels for receiving information and we are being made aware of things at a rate quantum leaps ahead of even 20 years ago, let alone 50.

I have come to terms with the fact that I have always been at odds with the thought of working for a living, even though I have done so and have been productive for my employers in the past. I never used to believe myself to be a business man or entrepreneur, but with more awareness, which comes with following my heart I can see that that is what I always wanted to be.

For many years I used to think that maybe I was a bit of a lazy, irresponsible person. I wasn’t on the property ladder like many of my peers and I wasn’t interested in moving up within my career into management. I preferred to be one of the engineers. Seeing as I hadn’t got a family or dependents to support I was content with the salary and if I’m honest, although I have had some pretty good jobs in the past in terms of salary and perks, I never really did that much work. I did make sure I got out of doing a lot of work, but always made sure I did what I felt was important and effective. Of course, your boss only notices when you do something that either saves the company money or averts or solves a major, business impacting disaster, so I made sure I was always at the forefront when I saw an opportunity to play a part in doing that.

Well if I am lazy then I have no problem with that. I try to increase my value to others everyday, even if those increases are not yet apparent to most. I do not spend my day laying on a beach, doing nothing, but I don’t graft and I don’t worry about whether I can pay the bills or not. Worry is a prayer for what you do not want.

I bought The Secret of Deliberate Creation after a while of deliberation in December 2008. What got me interested was the claim that the course creator, Dr Robert Anthony has uncovered the secret that was alluded to but never directly mentioned in "Think and Grow Rich", a book by Napoleon Hill. Seeing as the book and movie The Secret was inspired by this book and the fact that Dr. Robert Anthony played a large part in the creation of that book and movie I saw this claim as a potential revelation in getting the Law of Attraction to work for you in creating the results you want in life.

And I was not disappointed. More on that later.

I bought this program on faith. I didn’t go looking for reviews or opinions because it already resonated with me. The reason I had faith in this program from the outset was because of what I read about Dr. Robert Anthony himself in the past. He is very highly respected. He was a huge inspiration for Rhonda Byrne, creator of The Secret and he declined to appear in the movie because he chooses to stay out of the limelight, focusing more on the effectiveness of his work rather than his profile.

He also offers a 100% money back guarantee with no time limit. If you don’t see the results that he promises then you can ask for your money back. If you are satisfied however, this means that you have acheived the results promised, which is at the very least the promise that you will manifest the cost of the program, making it effectively free and training you in creating the results you desire from then on, but be aware that you will only accomplish this if you follow the steps and keep following them until the result is reached.

So I wasn’t Disappointed… Really?

"After all those empty promises out there, wasn’t this just the same?" Well I have come to realize that if you invest in a decent product of this nature, but do not benefit from any positive results then that is almost always down to you, not the program. I also happen to know that does not mean you are the one at fault. I mean if you don’t really engage with or complete a program and decide it is not very good then that is more down to the fact that maybe that program just isn’t really presented in a way that fires you up. If you want The Law of Attraction or any kind of "change your life" program to work then it has to be fun to engage with or you just won’t stick with it. Who wants to do something they don’t enjoy if they don’t have to right? If it’s not fun and you have to try it just won’t work.

For me, The Secret of Deliberate Creation is FUN, not because of Dr. Robert Anthony is particularly funny or fun in his presentation. In fact his presentation is very "matter of fact" and direct. However this got me focusing very intensely on what I really want and that my friends was what sparked the fun for me. Learning how to and actively creating the life of my dreams is fun. Would you not agree? If it’s not fun then you’ve chosen the wrong dream. It’s that simple.

It took me about 3 weeks after listening to the program and then following the steps laid out to succeed in achieving the goal set by Dr. Robert Anthony. I manifested more than the cost of the program too. It was about seven times that in fact and the way it came about was proof enough to me that this stuff works and the power of the universe is so great that I have absolute certainty in acieving any goals I desire, as long as it is truly a desire in my heart, which this program also helped with very effectively.

I don’t want to sound all "blown away" about all of this, but the truth is that using this program has tied up so many loose ends and come as close as anything I can imagine to simply making it all happen for me. It really is presented in such a simple manner that sceptics may say that all of the information is already available for free on the internet. Yes maybe it is. In fact if that is the case then the only book you need ever read is Think and grow Rich if you want to succeed in achieving your heart’s desire, but the point is not the information. The information is only effective if you apply it and it is the presentation of this program that makes the difference in how well it helps you apply that information.

This means of course that you still need to do stuff, but it is not what you may expect it to be. The secret, once revealed is so simple I was left with a feeling that I already knew all of this. It didn’t disappoint though, it gave me a feeling of knowing deeper than simply in my head and a real deep certainty of success.

I do see The Secret of Deliberate Creation as a success, although I wonder how effective it would have been 2 years ago before I had started my investigation into The Law of Attraction. I am aware enough to know that all of the study and work I have done in this area over that time has had a cumulitive effect, but I also think this program nails it. At least for me it does.

Just to make clear though. I do alot of other stuff in addition to this program, like meditation, lots of goal writing and focusing to the point that my awareness is noticaeably higher than it was a year or so ago. This program seems to have enabled me to intensify my focus almost constantly to provide extra power behind all that I am already doing, which is a crucial factor in my opinion. The intensity of your focus and where that focus is, is what it is all about.

That is why I recommend The Secret of Deliberate Creation.

There is the opportunity to download an enlightening free report by Dr Robert Anthony called "How to be a Money Magnet". It is available in pdf and mp3 audio format.